Portland Oregon Family Law Blog

Are you going to sabotage your divorce mediation?

More and more Oregon couples are choosing to use mediation for their divorces because of the numerous benefits over traditional litigated divorce. Mediation involves negotiating your divorce issues before a neutral third party trained in alternative dispute resolution methods. Ideally, the spouses arrive at an agreement that is manageable for both of them and sustainable for the long-term.

However, mediation does not always work, and some couples end up taking their divorces to court after all. If you are committed to achieving a gentler, more civil divorce through mediation, there are some actions you should avoid.

Relocation and your child custody order

Oregon parents who file for modifications to their court-ordered custody must demonstrate that any changes will benefit the children and not only the parent making the request. This may be especially true when it comes to questions of relocation.

If you are planning to move within or outside the state of Oregon, you may have your work cut out for you to convince a judge that it is best for your children. What may complicate your plans is if your co-parent does not consent to the move. Your plans to move may be well-intentioned, but the court will decide if they are in the children's best interests.

Money battles can damage marriages

Surveys and studies consistently put money at the top of lists of issues couples fight about. This may not surprise you if you and your spouse have had your share of disagreements about the family finances. What may surprise you is that arguments over money do not necessarily arise from a lack of money. In fact, money often represents much deeper issues between spouses.

If you and your spouse fight often about your finances, you may have concerns about whether you will ever be able to resolve your differences. It is no secret that financial disputes often lead to irreconcilable differences, and this often means divorce.

How might a domestic violence restraining order help me?

You might benefit from filing a domestic violence restraining order if you are being abused by someone in your family or household. Domestic violence involves someone trying to control you with physical violence, threats of physical violence, putting you down or making you afraid.

Domestic violence can include physical, sexual, emotional or economic abuse. However, to successfully receive a restraining order there usually needs to be a component of physical abuse or fear of physical abuse.

Shared custody shown to be best option for children after divorce

Every parent wants to spend as much time as they can with their children. When it comes to divorce, parents typically understand how important it is that each of them stays an integral part of their children’s lives. Studies have backed this up by concluding that shared parenting should be the norm for children of any age.

It comes down to proper development. When one parent is dominant in the children’s lives, the other parent becomes just like a visiting aunt or uncle where strong bonds and a proper relationship is harder to develop. The importance to what each parent brings to the raising of the children while in a marriage does not go away just because there was a divorce.

What aspects are different in a same-sex divorce?

In 2014, Oregon chose to lift the ban on same-sex marriage in the state, finally giving many couples the chance to be with the person they love. A year later, this freedom spread throughout the entire nation. Thousands of gay and lesbian couples rejoiced at this new development in their country and began wedding plans.

Unfortunately, this does not change the fact that not all relationships will last. While same-sex couples are still bound by the same laws and procedures a heterosexual couple would go through during separation, there are a couple of parts of the process that happen differently. Some areas are more tedious while others are slightly more lenient. Regardless, you should be aware of some of these differences before going into litigation or mediation.

The rights of a divorced father

Only in rare circumstances do divorced fathers’ win sole custody of their children. As a result, many of them typically wind up becoming part-time parents, only seeing their children on certain days and missing out on many of their day-to-day activities.

The experience can by heartbreaking and filled with sadness and tears. Even though divorced fathers are becoming more and more common in society, they still have one thing in common with their former spouse. They are parents first and foremost.

Entering a same-sex marriage? Know the legal pros and cons

Ever since same-sex marriage was legalized throughout the United States in 2015, many LGBTQ couples have been eager to walk down the aisle. Marriage can be a beautiful ceremony to cement a couple’s commitment to each other. It can also be a big legal hassle.

Gay couples face several unique challenges when it comes to getting married. It is important to take these into consideration in advance so that you and your partner can decide how to handle them. In this post, we’ll take a look at some of the potential pros and cons of same-sex marriage.

Gifts that miss the mark can affect relationships

For many Oregon residents, gifts can be a way to express and receive love. Some people might even be offended if their partner didn't give them a gift around the holidays. Presents often symbolize the status of the relationship, which can make gift shopping a stressful experience.

For example, reflect on your own relationships and think about the role that gifts played. Did you ever get a truly awful gift? What about perfect ones? In fact, gift-giving can change the way you see your marriage.

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