Priscilla Seaborg,
Attorney at Law

Consider being flexible for shared custody

| Apr 21, 2020 | blog, family law |

If you are negotiating a divorce in Oregon that will result in shared physical custody, you are likely considering the traditional arrangement where parents alternate weeks for their custodial time. However, experts are beginning to advise parents that alternating weeks may not be the best strategy as far as the children are concerned.

The Effects of Alternating Weeks

The traditional type of custody schedule may have various adverse effects on the children. When they are faced with a one-week absence from one parent’s house, they may begin to develop separation anxiety. Alternatively, the long duration when they do not see one parent could cause the child to grow apart from one or both parents. This can be emotionally difficult for children who are already going through an upheaval in their life.

Logistical Challenges

Moreover, being the parent with responsibility for an entire week straight can present other issues. First, your job may not give you the flexibility that you need to be a single parent because you will need to arrive late and leave early sometimes to accommodate the children’s schedule. Second, there may be a need for increased communication with the other parent during the time when they do not have the children. This could be difficult when the parents do not have a good relationship. As a result, experts are beginning to advise parents to consider a schedule where the two children rotate between the parents’ home more often while still maintaining the even split of custody.

If you are considering this type of schedule for parenting time, it may take some doing to get the other parent to embrace this type of calendar. It also may also require some creative suggestions to propose a schedule that fits both parents’ situations. A family law attorney may be able to come up with ideas and help a client get on the same page with the other parent.